Below, you will find an example of how my typical vow renewal ceremony unfolds. This ceremony includes optional chants and lei exchanges and can be customized to include your own vows, poems, and other details to make your vision a reality.
Entrance Chant (optional)
Aloha Kakou, Love for one and All.
Before we begin the ceremony I would like all of us here today to take a moment to be present, to be aware of, and to receive the blessing that is this land of Hawaii. Pomaika’I O Keia Aina. Feel the warmth of Ka La, the Sun upon our faces, the coolness of the gentle breeze, Makani Aheahe on our bodies. Hear the sounds, see the sights and sense the smells of the natural world that surrounds us and is ever present in our lives. He makana, a gift of Ke Akua, The Great Spirit. In these islands we Hawaiians believe that all things have a soul or a spirit. The plants, the animals, the rocks, all that is in the heavens, land, and sea. We are all connected to each other and to all that is on this earth because of the life breath that has been bestowed upon us by Ke Akua, the divine creator. We Hawaiians call this life breath HA. We can physically share this breath of life with our loved ones and our companions as a greeting, known as a Honi, the touching of noses; it is a representation of the sharing of our spirits. The Honi is performed by lightly touching our foreheads and the tips of our noses with the person we are sharing with. While looking into one another’s eyes, in unison we exhale from our noses completely and together we inhale through our noses deeply. The breath of life is shared through our noses because our mouths may have been tainted by words that should not have been said, but the breath of our nose is pure and innocent because it is free of that accountability.
Now with the sharing of life I would like to welcome all of you with a chant named Oli Aloha. In part the chant says; this is the sight that has longed to be seen, a desire which has now filled with eagerness. A Hikimai No Oukou, A Hiki Pu Me Ke Aloha. Now that you all have come, Love is brought with all of you. (CHANT OLI ALOHA). Aloha has been lifted to the heavens, the prayer and chant has gone its way. Amama Ua Noa. It is Freed.
(Bride) and (Groom) Welcome E KOMO MAI! Although I am the officiant here today, it is not truly in my power to sanctify or bless your relationship in any way, because the two of you have already done that so powerfully within your own hearts. Today you proclaim your love anew to the world, and we rejoice with you and for you. In marriage, as the two of you know so well, we give ourselves freely and generously into the hands of the one we love, and by doing so we receive the love and trust of the other as our most precious gift.
The union of husband and wife is to provide the sweetest, most precious and enduring relationship on earth. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, that is not entered into thoughtlessly or lightly. (Groom) and (Bride) you have realized this from your very beginnings and you have remained as one, in your love. Today we have all gathered here to celebrate your enduring relationship and commitment of ___ years of marriage, and today marks the continuing of your bond of everlasting love and devotion.
(Groom) and (Bride), when you had first joined hands and hearts, you did not know where love would take you, the joining of two individuals to one path in life led to an unknown destination. However, there was a promise made to love, honor, and cherish one another through all things, which has sealed you to each other and has continued to guide you on your path. We understand that Life has surely brought you both wonderful blessings as well as the challenges that come with the joining of two people in love. You have fulfilled your promises to each other and continue, still to uphold your vows. And we are all thankful for your example!
We Hawaiians have a saying known as an Olelo No’eau. “’A’ole E ‘Olelo Mai Ana Kea Ahi Aloha Ua Ana Ia.”, which says the fire of love, will never say that it has had enough. It means that love will burn as long as it has something to feed upon. As the two of you remain on your life’s journey together, let your love for one another always be nurtured and perpetuated. Never stop doing the things that had brought you together in the first place. So that the fires of love will burn with the commitment and promises you had made to each other. And with that it will continue to blaze bright like a beacon to the world.
We know that love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing in our lives. For love is the creator of our favorite memories and is the foundation of our fondest dreams. Sir Hugh Walpole said: “The most wonderful of all things in life, is the discovery of another human being with whom one's relationship has a growing depth, beauty and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing; it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It's a divine destiny."
A Hawaiian proverb “E Lei No Au I Ko Aloha” meaning I will cherish your love as a beautiful adornment. Here in Hawaii respect, honor, and most importantly love is bestowed upon a person by placing a lei upon their head and shoulders which are both sacred parts of the body. The beautifully crafted lei with its handpicked flowers and twine is a symbol of love, the Aloha that you share for each other and of things that are fragile and temporal. A flower lei will last for only a day or two, and then it is gone. Our lives are like the lei within the span of eternity. Therefore live with tender consideration for each other, continue to love one another and your marriage will last. Cherish each other’s love as you would a most precious and beautiful adornment. We now ask for the blessings of life that our hearts will always be open to receive love and to give love in return. “E Lei Kau, E Lei Ho’oilo I Ke Aloha” Love is worn like a wreath through the summers and the winters. Love is everlasting. (CHANT OLI LEI) Now present your leis to one another with a smile and a kiss on the cheek.
I (Groom/Bride) renew my vows of marriage to you (Groom/Bride) you are my life partner, my best friend and companion. You are the supporter of my dreams and guardian of my heart I will spend all the rest of my days at your side. My love, I thank you (Groom/Bride) for providing a nurturing, challenging, and loving environment in which to grow. How I love you still my beautiful (wife/husband). What I promised before I gladly promise again to love you, honor you and respect you above all others. I gladly renew that which had been promised ___ years ago, to pledge myself to you again this day with love as fresh as the first day I had married you. I love you.
Now that you have reaffirmed your love and promise to each other, may that special love you share continue to grow and blossom in the years to come. Let it be sustained by family and friends, and by the commitment you have made again this day. Stay close and cling tenderly yet tightly as you continue to journey through this world. Find companionship as well as love; understanding as well as compassion; challenge as well as agreement. Keep your gentle feelings for each other, cherishing your dreams, sharing in joys, believing in each other. Let the times you surpass your needs and hopes be many.
May the home in which you live continue to be an island where the pressures of the world can be sorted out and brought into focus; where tensions can be released and understood; and where the warmth of humor and love puts crisis into perspective. And above all, may you find an even richer joy in living, learning and loving together.
Be one in heart and always beautiful of mind. Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before you. May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead and through all the years to come, may happiness be your companion and may your days together be good and long upon this earth.
I would like you to now hold each other’s hands and look into one another’s eyes as I chant for you. Oli Mahalo. A chant of thanks, to ke akua the great spirit, to our kupuna who are our ancestors, to our families our ohana and our friends our hoaloha, who are near and far, a thanks to each other, and to this beautiful land of Hawaii. (CHANT OLI MAHALO)
May Peace and Unconditional love surround you and remain with
you now and forevermore.
And so by the power vested in me by The State of Hawaii
I pronounce that you are now more than ever before Husband and Wife.
You may seal your vows once again with a kiss.